As a practitioner and trainer of NLP and Hypnotherapy ... I help people move out of unwanted experiences of anxiety and depression and failure and despair (and on and on) that keep them stuck and inhibit their movement toward the goals and aspirations that they have.
And I help them to access states of calm, collected confidence and optimism and motivation and determination
... and other states that will help them produce the results they've come to achieve.
And I want to share an idea with you about that.
Everything you're running from is inside your head.
We live in a world that bombards our sensory system all day and night. And all that incoming data doesn't mean a thing until we assign meaning to it. Stuff happens on the outside, but EXPERIENCE is what we do on the
inside. Something happens and then we start telling ourselves stories about it ... we judge it and evaluate it ... we give it meaning ... we imagine future scenarios that could arise from it. And the feeling we end up with are the result of all that.
Shakespeare tells us "Nothing is either good or bad, save thinking makes it so."
My friend Jamie Smart has written a whole book on the subject .... It's called "Clarity" and you can find
it at all the usual online book sources or in local bookstores everywhere. And I know what Jamie would tell
us. He'd say "You're feeling the effect of your thinking."
Goethe observed, "There is nothing more dreadful than imagination without taste."
And in my career I've come across a lot of people who spend most of their time making things up inside their head ... things that make them miserable ... things that make them crazy. And if you're one of those people (we all are some of the time), then I want to commend you for your creativity. Who knew that anxiety was a creative
act? Because if you want to be any good at it you've got to make up a whole believable reality for yourself and maintain it through time.
AND, I also have an important message for you:
Knock that sh** off!
Since sadness, failure, depression, - are just thoughts. And since you're the one who's thinking them ... just knock it off!
Of course there are real emergencies ... and you don't want to push them out of your mind ... but your success at surviving an emergency is certainly enhanced when you're not freaking out inside like a frightened little schoolgirl
and instead can access enough clarity of mind to make some good decisions about how to respond.
So when you stop all of that anxious or panicked or worried thinking you'll have choices. Because if you're going to make up an experiential world for yourself ... You might as well make up a groovy one.
KNOW THIS: You're only one thought away from happiness, success, joy, self esteem, confidence ...
So what ARE you going to create with all that spare mind space?
Or maybe you'd like to just hang out with the quiet inside and see what arises, naturally.
Now I realize that some of you may be unsure about HOW to turn off the negative thought maker ... so be sure to watch for the next blog here ... and we'll share some secrets with you..
In the meantime, you might discover how helpful it can be just to realize that your anxiety or misery is just a result of stinkin' thinkin' ... that what you're feeling is the result of your thinking ... and thinking is just a
behavior. Maybe simply knowing that will help.